Many people may also be shy about their appearance.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
Actually, if you are referring to her as "that," then you've already got yourself a problem. Photo credit: Miranda Kerr image by s_bukley/Shutterstock If you see that one method works and another doesn't, then you should adjust your strategy accordingly.
Here's an example: Women that have already looked at your profile and haven't messaged you aren't necessarily uninterested.